Update 3/7/2010 I thought I would attach the letter I sent back.
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
Bishop E. J.
I have been asked to provide a letter with my feelings about a sealing clearance with Morris Mathews.
It has been 14 years since Morris and I have been civilly divorced. Unfortunately we were not wise when we entered into our marriage. The path in my life was altered 9 years before I was married to Morris, when I became a single mother.
Morris and I rushed into our marriage quickly by dating for 1 month and a 2 week engagement. We didn't really know each other. I just wanted to be married and have more children. Morris even received an answer to his prayer not to marry me, and I basically "told" Heavenly Father that I was going to marry Morris. I was not humble at all. At age 30 I wanted to be married.
I was not the perfect wife and he was not the perfect husband. There were many conflicts regarding my son, and I was a protective mother bear. I knew quickly that I had made a wrong choice, but tried to make it work. Morris and I had a son during those next few years. Unfortunately things escalated and we were terrible to each other. I hurt Morris and he hurt me.
If I could go back right now and change the worst, totally unmentionable things, I am not sure I would really change any of them. Especially if changing would mean I would not have the temple blessings I have now or our son. Being sealed as a family and having temple blessings mean the world to me and I am thankful for them even though our marriage failed.
Time has healed my heart through the power of the Atonement. I am thankful that my sins can be forgiven through my Savior, Jesus Christ and that my heart has been healed. There is not a greater gift in my life than the sweet, simple act of forgiveness from my Savior and forgiving myself for not being able to make the marriage work. I might not be the person that I am today without the trials that I had to go through.
I am thankful for those trials. For the lessons I have learned, for the heart that has been both broken, and healed. I am so thankful for my Saviors loving influence in my life.
I would never deny Morris the chance of happiness by being sealed to Connie in the holy temple. I know that things will work out in heaven, for Heavenly Father is just and will bless us with happiness in the eternities if we live worthily to our temple covenants. I don't believe Morris and I will be together in heaven. I believe there is someone else up there that I will be with. However, I need to have my temple ordinances in place to obtain these blessings - my ordinances with Morris.
Morris is also current in his financial obligations in regards to his son. He has always been current through the past 14 years.
Please grant Morris the sealing clearance.
Thank you and Sincerely,
******* I have to remind others who have to write a letter to the First Presidency for a temple clearance .... I know that you have been through a rough marriage and divorce .... but please remember that you are sending the letter to a Prophet of God and Apostles. Please write your letter in an appropriate way. I know reading these letters everyday from angry people weigh on their hearts and minds. I would imagine it is a difficult task to do and read those letters daily.
Write a the letter as if it was going to Heavenly Father himself. Be humble, be repentant and loving - no matter who is at fault. I don't believe they need to know detailed descriptions and anger. I believe we will be judged at our anger and unforgiving spirit at judgement day. (my own thoughts). Just a gentle reminder to you that those letters go to a Prophet of God... **********