Monday, October 10, 2011
Motivational Monday: Virtue
After Brady took Kara to the Homecoming dance, I have thought A LOT about virtue. My niece Zoey Michelle, commented how none of the girls had sleeves on their dresses. I knew this, but dismissed it because it was Kara, one of Brady's dear friends he has had for years. This wasn't a romantic date, only a friendship date. Because it was Kara, it didn't bother me that she wore the typical dress for a high school dance.
Now as I have pondered upon this, I'm quite taken back on my relaxed acceptance of "No Sleeves" for my valiant, Priesthood holder son. I really shouldn't be relaxed at all about it!
It gave me an opportunity to have a frank discussion with Brady about this. I asked him if he felt uncomfortable. I asked him if it bothered him and if he had impure thoughts. His response was that it was Kara - No, it didn't bother him. None of Brady's friends are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, but all of them are great kids with high standards, which is why I never worried about Kara's dress code.
However, as I have pondered it, I feel like I didn't do the right thing. When Kara and Brady decided to go to the dance together, I should have made it clear that Kara needed to be respectful of Brady's standards and wear a modest dress with sleeves.
It is different when you only have son's because I don't have to worry about my son dressing immodestly. Brady and I agreed that he wouldn't go to another dance without making sure the girl wore a modest dress.
I feel a young woman is BEAUTIFUL when she is dressed modestly. Take my niece Autumn's dress below:
She is a virtuous, modest and a beautiful young woman. I'm proud of her choices and the example she is for her standards. Way to go Autumn!
A great group of valiant young women and men!
While watching General Conference, I loved Sister Elaine Dalton's talk "Love her Mother".
It was a wonderful touching talk and you can listen to it here:
One of the paragraphs in her talk really spoke to me:
You must be the guardians of virtue. “A priesthood holder is virtuous. Virtuous behavior implies that [you have] pure thoughts and clean actions. … Virtue is … an attribute of godliness.” It “is akin to holiness.”
The Young Women values are Christlike attributes which include the value of virtue.
We now call upon you to join with us in leading the world in a return to virtue. In order to do so, you “must practise virtue and holiness” by eliminating from your life anything that is evil and inconsistent with one who holds the holy priesthood of God.
“Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly; then shall thy confidence wax strong in the presence of God; and … the Holy Ghost shall be thy constant companion.”
So be cautious about what you view in entertainment media or print. Your personal virtue will model for your daughters, and also your sons, what true strength and moral courage are. Your personal purity will give you power.
Another paragraph I liked - which is my responsibility because I am a single mom with no Father in the family:
Fathers, you are the guardians of your homes, your wives, and your children. Today, “it is not an easy thing to protect one’s family against intrusions of evil into [their] minds and spirits. … These influences can and do flow freely into the home. Satan [is very clever]. He need not break down the door.”
As the hymn says, “Rise up, O men of God!” This is a call to you, the men who bear the holy priesthood of God. May it be said of you as was said of Captain Moroni:
“[He] was a strong and a mighty man; … a man of a perfect understanding; … a man who was firm in the faith of Christ. …
“… If all men had been, and were, and ever would be, like unto Moroni, behold, the very powers of hell would have been shaken forever; … the devil would never have power over the hearts of the children of men.”
Brethren, fathers, young men, “Be loyal to the royal within you.”